Gay Marriage: Virginia Couple Proud of the Progress on Debate

As the Supreme Court debates and after 13 years in a committed relationship, Lawrence Webb and Clifton Taylor are glad to see progress in the fight for gay marriage.

Editor's Note: Our 31 Virginia and D.C. Patches are filled with people who have faced obstacles and overcome them. Their success is worth sharing, and today we share a feature that originally ran last week on our Falls Church Patch. Look for more highlighted stories soon. 

Marriage wasn’t a major point of discussion for Falls Church residents Lawrence Webb and Clifton Taylor when they met 13-years ago.

Back then, Webb said, there was hesitation to push for gay marriage. For Webb and Taylor, it’s not about brandishing shiny rings to symbolize a unity, but the ability to join in a union regardless of public opinion.

“I don’t know why there is an issue with gay marriage when 50 percent of heterosexual marriages don’t work,” Taylor said.

As the same sex marriage debate enters the chambers of the Supreme Court this week, some justices, according to an article in The New York Times, are questioning if this is the right time for the debate. Tuesday’s hearing stemmed from California’s Proposition 8, which overturned a State Supreme Court decision to allow same sex marriage.

Same sex marriage is illegal in Virginia after more than half of the commonwealth’s voters approved a state constitutional amendment in 2006 defining marriage as a union between a man and a woman, according to a Huffington Post article.

Connecticut, Iowa, Maine, New Hampshire, Washington, New York and Vermont join D.C. and Maryland as the only places that allow same sex marriage.

In 2003, Taylor, 33, was rushed to an emergency room at a Virginia hospital and Webb was steadfast by his side. When Webb, 38, identified himself as Taylor’s partner, he was told he could not come to the back area where his mate would be treated. It was the reality Webb already knew and understood. There was no argument, no resistance from Webb. His partner was in more physical pain that trumped his momentary mental pain.

“It was us wanting everything that came with marriage but call it something else,” Webb said.

Wearing different-styled red sweaters for unity Tuesday night at a Falls Church eatery, Webb and Taylor told stories of meeting each other’s families and how that dynamic has improved over the years. As the onion rings disappeared from the plastic baskets and the lemonade refills flowed to the table, the couple revealed if they were to ever marry, it would be for family and friends.

“There is a high expectation from our friends to do it,” Webb said. “It’s more for our friends to see us do it.”

Regardless what they call their relationship today, tomorrow or years down the road, the couple said they have been through the same things their heterosexual peers have ventured through. All that matters in the end for Webb and Taylor is they have the same rights as married heterosexual couples.

“What is marriage? Is it a contract between two people,” Taylor said. “As we progress in our relationship, we ask why would we let anyone take away what we have?”

Diana April 06, 2013 at 02:33 AM
Amen Linda!
Carol Lewis April 06, 2013 at 12:00 PM
Michael R, I don't know what happened to my post of last night, but I'll try again. I'm so sorry about all you had to deal with as an adolescent and about the insensitive and sometimes cruel posts you see on this thread.Please know that you are not alone, and that more people support you than oppose you. The day of marriage equality will come, when two (not more) consenting adult human beings (not animals or cars) of any gender may marry and share the joys and responsibilities of marriage that others do. These arguments were used to oppose interracial marriage and they are just as bogus now as they were then (although the car thing is new - have fun with that). I wish you well in the days and years ahead.
Carol Lewis April 06, 2013 at 08:53 PM
Hello Patch editors! Are you going to approve my posts sometime? One has been pending since 8 pm last night. I posted the second this morning when I didn't see the first. I can't see that anything I wrote violates your policies. Thanks.
Barbara Glakas April 09, 2013 at 10:25 PM
“We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice….and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity…” “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal…” “In every stage of these Oppressions We have Petitioned for Redress in the most humble terms: Our repeated Petitions have been answered only by repeated injury.” “Is life so dear, or peace so sweet, as to be purchased at the price of chains and slavery? Forbid it, Almighty God! I know not what course others may take; but as for me, give me liberty or give me death!” “…nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.” “… unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”
Ivy May 03, 2013 at 02:10 PM
U try to preach as if u have the right to judge....ur god says "Thou shalt not judge..." he also says "let he without sin cast the first stone..." I highly doubt that u are w/o sin so who are u to judge me n my fellow LGBT Community members...If u base ur views purely on ur "bible" then u to r a sinner, a deviant n immoral...."1The Lord said to Moses... Do not steal..Do not lie..Do not deceive one another Do not go about spreading slander among your people. Do not do anything that endangers your neighbor’s life. Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself.. Keep my decrees..Do not mate different kinds of animals.. Do not plant your field with two kinds of seed.. Do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material. Do not eat any meat with the blood still in it.. Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard. Do not cut your bodies for the dead or put tattoo marks on yourselves... Do not turn to mediums or seek out spirits, for you will be defiled by them... Stand up in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God.. Now tell me why it is that people focus merely on the love that to people share when there are many other things that ur "Lord" has said never to do but millions of people have done anyway...U R ALL HYPOCRITES!! Reevaluate urself and ur Lords laws before u try to speak merely out of fear (sry for all the short hand)


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